TIS THE SEASON.
This time of year can be so joyful and
stressful at the same time. We place expectations on ourselves and others based
on the perfect Christmas/Holiday season. As we know striving for perfection can
cause so many issues and unnecessary stress and anxiety. Looking after our
mental health is essential to reduce the impact this time of year may have on
us.
Recognise that your feelings may be due to a
combination of purchase-related factors including money worries, the pressure
of last-minute shopping and unrealistic expectations of festive cheer. Remind
yourself that many of these negative feelings will pass once the New Year is
underway. Or even by the following day.
Why do we do this? The reason may be as simple- we are human beings. We are
wired to think and feel and believe in something greater than ourselves. what
ever that may be. Generosity and goodwill toward all human-beings makes us feel
better. They change our heart and allow us to step out of our lives for a while
and focus on other things.
Instead Take time out to enjoy the little things,
creating memories if you are spending it with loved ones. Some of the most
memorable things can be imperfection in the perfection like forgetting the
batteries or tinfoil for the roast which make for great memories perhaps not in
the moment but in years to come.
It is a beautiful time for pause and reflection on
all that we are grateful for however it is essentially one day for many, the
lead up can be hard for many and events during the year can impact our
wellbeing and thoughts of Christmas and the holidays.
I am not sure if it is a getting older thing or
being a parent however the greatest gift I will receive this year is presence,
when my daughter comes home and we are all together you see you can not wrap
that up, no money can buy it and I love it.
Please do no put yourself in debt trying to show
someone you love them, its never about those things. The ripple effect of
spending too much far out weighs the moment of gifting someone something out of
your budget.
We can feel, overwhelmed, anxious and stressed all
mixed in with excitement and anticipation for the big day here are some tools
to help you cope and enjoy a little more.
Coping with anxiety
Parties
and events can be stressful if you struggle with social anxiety. Don’t feel
pressured to say ‘yes’ to every invitation – you are allowed to decide which
festive events and traditions are more important and enjoyable for YOU, and
decline the activities which cause you unnecessary stress.
Christmas prep causing stress?
Christmas
can be a huge source of stress, and it’s easy to feel there’s too much to
organise, or too much pressure on you – but don’t hesitate to reach out for
help if you need it. Ask a friend or family member to help you with the build
up, if you are feeling overwhelmed say it.
Ease the stress by drawing up a budget, shopping early and taking steps
to avoid overspending.
Set your expectations realistically. Families that bicker during the
year are likely to do so at this time also setting realistic goals and plans is
essential to reduce this.
Discuss your Christmas and holiday plans as a family, and appreciate
that doing things a little differently this year could help everyone deal with
challenging life changes.
Emma Weaver
www.mentalwealthinternational.com
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